How do you view yourself? Are you being driven to do certain things based on what you have? Or what you do? Or what someone does? Or what someone have? Or who you are?
According to collective studies on Psychology and success models, there are 3 principles identified on how we are motivated to do things or hinder us to achieve success.
Do-Have-Be Principle
If I DO this, I can HAVE this, then BE this.
“I should work more so that I can earn more and be successful in life”
The motivation to achieve something and be the person you want to be is based on what you can do right now. Actually, we are used to this kind of principle since we are young – being instructed on what to do in school to get high marks so that we can graduate and be successful.
This line of reasoning restricts someone on what he/she can do and have a tendency to look into someone’s doing which he/she mimic believing that he/she can achieve the same success. But unfortunately, some fails as these things do not fit in their being.
Have-Do-Be Principle
If I only HAVE this, I can DO this, then BE this.
“If I only have a capital, I can start the business and be a successful entrepreneur.”
The motivation to do something is based on what you have right now. This restricts us to be the person we envisioned to be as we are limited with the things that we have as of the moment. This is also common to us which might result to procrastination or discouragement to achieve our goals.
I had talks with some people who really want to start something but what they have right now hinders them to be able to start.
Be-Do-Have: A Paradigm Shift
I choose to BE this, hence, I can DO this, and HAVE this.
“I choose to be an Entrepreneur now, I can find ways to start small and take even small steps to improve as an Entrepreneur. Failures will not define me because I know that these are also my assets that I can use to get me closer to my goals.”
“I choose to be happy now, I will do something to bring happiness to other people. If I fail, it will not change who I am and I will continuously thrive to bring positivity to them.”
You are you! You are unique and God created you with a purpose. Other people’s success and the circumstances should not define you. God has given you unique talents that can bring you to success. Don’t be someone who you are not.
What should you do to shift to the Be-Do-Have paradigm?
1. Know who you are in God.
To know ourselves is to go back to our Creator.
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. – Psalms 139:13-14 (ESV)
No one can tell you who fully you are, but only He who created us. And He called you as his child. You are chosen, a royal priesthood, a holy nation.
But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. – 1 Peter 2:9 (ESV)
Your identity is in Christ, not in your wealth, status of your life or on how other people see you. To know Christ is a step to know your true identity and your purpose in life.
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2. Discover your talents and turn them into strengths.
Each one has unique, enduring and God-given talents. Discovering your talents is one step towards to success.
CliftonStrengths assessment will help you identify the talents that you have. It brings name to your unknown talents and behaviors that will help you increase your self-awareness.
The key to success is to fully understand how to apply your greatest talents and strengths in your everyday life. When you discover your greatest talents, you’ll discover your greatest opportunities for excellence, success and contribution. – Gallup, Inc.
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3. Know your goals.
The more that you know yourself and your identity, the more that you will be able to identify your purpose and goals in life.
Seek God, pray and start to list down your goals.
4. Live and act according to your “Be”.
When you are doing things according to your “being” and leveraging your strengths, the more enthusiastic you are. Even small steps matter to you toward your goals. You are more natural in the way you do things and enjoying your journey. Moreover, you will be able to come up with ideas and systems that will guide you towards the goal(s) that you set.
5. Be accountable. Have a coach.
Shifting to a new paradigm is challenging as we are currently wired on how we think right now which developed over time. But it’s not yet late!
Be accountable to someone and have a coach. A coach can help you unleash the best in you through your own talents and strengths. You are not alone in your journey. Have someone to journey with you!
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